If you are not into reading a rant over raising kids stop reading. This is a post that I felt strong enough after listening to a conversation that I had to write.
Woman of two boys mad as son (adult 18) borrowed something and didn't return it. It was a pass to get over a bridge so inconvenient in the extreme the next day. Texted him angry about it and him not returning it. Then said "boys just don't think of those things." Boys don't think of "those" things. Those things are respect for other people. Returning something you borrowed. Boys just don't think of those things as well they are boys. Give them a pass.
I had to stopped talking as knew I wasn't being heard over respect and giving "boys" a pass. Daughters are not giving a pass over respect. There is an expectation for females to respect, return, take care, do the right thing. I know I am over simplifying it but seriously? Boys don't think of those things. Hmm....
Maybe this is why we teach our daughters how to be safe. Watch your drink. Make sure you park where it is lite. Leave with friends. What are we teaching our sons? Doesn't seem to be the default is "no" when forcing/raping a female. All I hear is unless they "say" no it means yes.
NO! the default should be everything is NO unless she says yes lets have sex. So if she is drunk, stoned, can't communicate effectively. Mumbling yes to everything doesn't mean males can say oh that was a yes to sex. Oh passed out that is a no also.
You might think this has veered off topic over not returning his mother's pass but has it? Boys don't think of those things? Why not? Why are they given a pass when females are not? Why aren't we teaching our boys to be respectful?
This is 2021 almost 2022 why is it still a man's world? Maybe the place to start changing course is raising males to be respectful and not giving them a pass. That the world is not theirs to manipulate and rule. Females are not their "play" thing.
Yes to teaching our daughters to be safe and have critical thinking and be aware of the world and what is happening right around them. Also raising our sons to know the default is "NO" all the time. That they don't get a pass because they are male. They still have to do the right thing. Period.
It starts at home.
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